Somewhere in the midst of busyness and not enough sleep I've been thinking. One of my kindred spirit adoption friends is flying to Uganda to bring home her newest blessing. This will be her 16th blessing, 15 of whom are living. Even in the adoption world people might thing that is too many children. If they knew this family they wouldn't because they do it better then most people do with one child. But what if it wasn't this family. What if it was a family that doesn't do it as well. A family that was crazy busy, somewhat frantic, disorganized, living meagerly and whatever other reasons you can think of to not add one more.
But what if that family did have alot of love, financial means to care for another child even if it is not to the worlds standards and didn't really want an organized life anyway. If a family is willing, then how many is too many? We're talking about children here. Eternal treasure. Do we just leave a child without a family because of a number? Because people might think we are taking on too much. How do you look at a child without a family and know that YOU not only can love that child but already do love that child. Why does that bother people? Why are there people that don't want a child to have a family? How could an orphanage, institution, street, coffin be a better choice?
I know of Christian parents that have stopped talking to their children because they choose to adopt. Maybe, they don't know. Maybe they don't believe that their are really millions of children without a family. Once you do know though. Once you believe. Once you see....how many is too many?
What if that child never got adopted at all? What if it was a large family or no family at all? All families are different. Some really work, some don't - even if they only have 1 child.
ReplyDeleteOk I get it, we will adopt more! :) 8 seems like a good number!
ReplyDeleteYou may wish to take a look at the (numerous) horror stories of "child collectors" who adopted many, many children at poundpuplegacy.org.
ReplyDeleteWhile adopting/having 16 children by no means guarantees anything awful will happen to those kids... but the odds are indeed SIGNIFICANTLY higher that something will.
I would disagree. I would say the odds are that whether or not a family is a horrible family has nothing to do with family size or whether or not they are an adoptive family. There is evil in this world indeed and it is perpetrated in all walks of life but the light is not overcome by the evil, instead evil is overcome by the light. So despite the fact that no matter what you do someone will do the same thing with evil intent we still do the thing God has called us to do. Since your post was written respectfully I will assume that you are voicing a true concern. However Websites like the one you mentioned tend to be anti adoption and anti large family so I am wondering your purpose in reading my blog which is obviously pro both adoption and large family!
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